It’s not very often that I agree with Hillary Clinton.
But she must have read my blog yesterday – and even learned a thing or two – considering what she said in a new interview with Marie Claire.
(Just for the record and for anybody who doesn’t have a sense of humor: Yes, I know she didn’t really read my blog post and that the interview was probably actually conducted well before I even thought about writing it.)
“I can’t stand whining,” Clinton is quoted as saying. “I can’t stand the kind of paralysis that some people fall into because they’re not happy with the choices they’ve made. You live in a time when there are endless choices… Money certainly helps, and having that kind of financial privilege goes a long way, but you don’t even have to have money for it. But you have to work on yourself… Do something!”
This was apparently in response to former State Department Director of Policy Planning – Quite the title! – Anne-Marie Slaughter’s comments in her article, “Why Women Still Can’t Have It All,” which was published in the Atlantic over the summer.
Clinton also said that “Some women are not comfortable working at the pace and intensity you have to work at in these jobs… Other women don’t break a sweat… They have four or five, six kids. They’re highly organized. They have very supportive networks.”
While she’s got it all wrong on everything from abortion to staying with one’s husband when he’s an adulterous, unrepentant scumbag, Clinton nailed it this time.
Life is all about choices and personal abilities and learning to take responsibility for your actions, whatever they happen to be. It’s about understanding that every opportunity comes with its own special balance of risks and rewards…
If you’re going to shoot for President of the United States – as a man or a woman – understand that your family life is automatically going to suffer as a result. If you take on the position of CEO of any company, much less a big one, recognize that your social abilities might be cut in half. If you want to stay at home with the children, know that you might sometimes wonder what it’s like to have a paid career of your own.
Life is about giving and taking, which means that there is no such thing as having it all. Not for women. Not for men. Not for anybody.