I come from Lancaster County, PA, home of the Mennonite mentality to get married at 18.
I’m not exactly proud of this fact. I much prefer to consider myself a Jersey Girl since I was born in the Garden State. But the truth is that I spent most of my life in Lancaster all the same.
Lancaster has some good points to it. I mean, the place didn’t suffer from the housing crisis at all thanks to its fiscally conservative mentality. But there is a definite sort of sexism that exists there too, with the overarching societal belief being that marriage is a woman’s highest calling.
Being raised by parents who taught me the value of femininity – not to mention life itself – I have to roll my eyes at the notion. It’s simply not true. And it’s dangerous to think otherwise. I’ve seen how buying into the marriage-is-everything lie can lead to misplaced priorities, self-righteous ninnery (i.e. the constant state of being a ninny), and broken homes.
However, it’s just as dangerous to think that marriage and family mean nothing. Belittling wifehood and motherhood can result in being an obnoxious, over-opinionated, close-minded, unlikable and unhappy cow. Like Amy Glass.
Amy Glass is a blogger for Thought Catalog who just earned her fifteen minutes of fame by writing about how she looks “Down on Young Women With Husbands And Kids.” Oh yeah, and she’s “Not Sorry” about it either.
She starts out her rantings by claiming that she has “to fight back vomit” whenever she hears somebody equate feminism with freedom. Her exact words are “Every time I hear someone say that feminism is about validating every choice a woman makes I have to fight back vomit.”
That’s a little intense regardless, but what she actually means is that she wants to throw up whenever someone says the feminist label can comfortably include stay at home moms.
“Do people really think that a stay at home mom is really on equal footing with a woman who works and takes care of herself? There’s no way those two things are the same,” she raves. “Having kids and getting married… aren’t accomplishments, they are actually super easy tasks, literally anyone can do them.”
Really? So is being a cow.
Glass concludes with: “Women will be equal with men when we stop demanding that it be considered equally important to do housework and real work. They are not equal. Doing laundry will never be as important as being a doctor or an engineer or building a business. This word play is holding us back.”
Poor Bessie doesn’t recognize that doing laundry actually is extremely important. If someone somewhere didn’t do laundry, diseases and really bad odors would abound, wrecking havoc on all of those doctors and engineers and business builders. Duh.
She also doesn’t understand – or want to understand – that being a mother is an extremely important job. Good mothers produce good kids who don’t go around ruining their lives or other’s lives. And let’s face it… It’s a lot easier to make sure children are behaving when we’re actually around to supervise them in the first place.
Therefore, good mothers are a crucial element to any truly productive society.
And Amy Glass needs to start considering why she’s really so unhappy that she wants to vomit at the idea of marriage and motherhood. That just doesn’t sound healthy.